Rules of Engagement for Successfully Sharing Your Faith
In any type of warfare, there are rules of engagement. These are put in place for the protection of all parties involved and to also help the battle (or discussion) move forward.
This class is designed to help you defend your faith against questions from non-believers or comparisons by those people of religions that may claim Christ as their leader, but do not follow carefully the teaching of the New Testament.
They say, well, in America seventy-eight percent of the people say that they’re Christians, but you and I know that that seventy-eight percent will include people that simply say, well, I kind of believe in a God, and yeah, I guess I’m a Christian, but they don’t know the Bible, they haven’t been baptized, they couldn’t tell you how they were saved. So it’s a pretty generic number when they take those types of polls.
Hopefully, in this class, you’ll find the scripture or teaching that answers your friends’ question or your family’s objection about a particular issue. In the end, you’re going to be stronger, more confident, more knowledgeable about what the Bible teaches about specific issues and subjects. And hopefully, you’ll be able to answer with intelligence and love to the questions and challenges put to you by those who are not members of the church.
Rules of Engagement
In any type of warfare, there are rules of engagement. One of the main reasons for this is so that the outcome of the war can be determined with the least amount of damage and loss of life as possible. This is why wounded and prisoners are cared for, why civilians are restrained, but not massacred, leaving the soldiers to fight it out.
Another reason is that if you don’t fight by the rules and you lose the war, the revenge extracted upon you may be severe. Well in Bible warfare there are also rules of engagement for the protection of all, and also to help the discussion move ahead.
Now realize that these rules that I’m talking about are not written down or listed in the Bible. They are merely examples and helpful guides developed over a long period of time teaching and debating other people on the topic of religion. They’re not all the rules either, hopefully, you’ll be able to provide some from your own experience as well.
Alright, with that said, let’s look at some of the rules of engagement when it comes to discussing or debating Bible, religious or faith issues.
Rule #1 – Understand that People are Sincere in their Beliefs, Whatever Those Beliefs are.
Regardless of the religion, philosophical system, faith experience, Bible understanding – if a person uses this in their interpretation of the world and life in general, this is important to them.
Just because it is different from ours, even wildly different; even if we see it as totally anti-biblical, we do great harm to our personal credibility if we assume that their views are less important to them than our views are to us.
There have been many people who have died as martyrs for causes and beliefs that are non-christian, even atheistic in nature. For example:
- Buddhist monks burned themselves alive protesting the U.S. pressure in Vietnam
- Japanese kamikaze pilots in World War II would crash their planes into U.S. warships on purpose because they sincerely believed that their Emperor was divine and this suicide mission would guarantee their afterlife.
So members of the Church of Christ don’t have a corner on sincerity or zeal when it comes to religion or faith. Even the pagans who lived in the land of Canaan before the Jews sacrificed their own children to their gods as a sign of their faith.
When we begin a discussion about the Bible with a person that we disagree with (whether it’s a disagreement about the very existence of God or a dispute over a minor point of doctrine) we have to begin by understanding and respecting the fact that the other person feels as strongly about their point of view as we do ours. And we must remember that it will be as difficult for them to change their minds as it would be for us to do so in the same circumstance.
Paul says the Apostle Paul says that “we should speak the truth in love,” Ephesians 4:15, among ourselves as Christians. I don’t think I would be twisting the Scriptures if I said that we should expand this to our communication with those out of the faith as well. We should, therefore, speak the truth in love when discussing or debating matters of faith with others because they are as sensitive as we are about these matters and without a loving approach we could wound or offend them.
Now some might say that it’s impossible to share the faith, correct error, teach the word without offending somebody somehow. That brings me to my second rule.
Rule #2 – Stick to the Bible
We get into more problems and emotional turmoil because we go from discussing what the Bible says or doesn’t say, to judging opinions, habits, traditions, feelings. For example,
In commenting on the Roman Catholic practice of having a religious service at midnight on Christmas morning someone will call it “crazy,” “useless,” or “dumb.” For those who grew with this tradition and practice, such a comment would be extremely insulting, hurtful and unproductive.
As Christians, our task in regards to other people, whether they be fellow Christians or people who follow other religions or complete atheists, our task is always the same. It’s very clear, it’s easy to understand, but because of our sinful natures and ignorance, not always easy to do.
Our task is given to us in Matthew 28:20 by Jesus, He says that we must “teach them to observe all that I commanded you,” This task does not involve our feelings or our opinions, only the Word of the Lord – Bible. There are some very important reasons for rule number two.
A – It’s Biblical
Sticking to the Word is how the Word itself tells us to debate and discuss with others about faith.
All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;
– II Timothy 3:16
- Paul tells a young preacher, Timothy, that it is the Word of God that has the ability to instruct someone in matters of faith (teach).
- He says that it is the Word of God that is to be used as the standard for proving or disproving the validity and truthfulness of any idea or religious claim (reproof).
- It is the Word of God that is to be used to adjust a mistaken idea or proposal in spiritual matters (correction).
- It is the Word of God that is to be used to train a person in how to live a pleasing life before God, or how to serve Him, or how to worship Him (training).
The Bible itself tells us that we should use it in trying to convince, debate, or teach other people.
B – It keeps the debate in perspective
Many times when a religious discussion gets ugly and bitter, it’s because it becomes personal. Comments like well, “what a stupid idea” or “that’s not the way we do it at my church” or, “my preacher says that you people are all going to hell.”
Religion and faith are deeply personal things and just discussing them with someone else is a very risky thing. You’re afraid of being wrong or looking ignorant or being rejected. Try to remember that the discussion is not between
- your church versus their church
- your faith versus their faith
- your ideas, traditions, leaders versus theirs
To be productive, non-confrontational, and edifying, a religious discussion should be framed in the following perspective: “how do our respective beliefs, faith, religions, line up with the Bible?”
This puts Jesus and His Word on one side and ourselves and the people we are discussing religion with on the other. For example:
Jesus is on one side and all of us are on the other. We hold all of our beliefs, including our own, up to the light of God’s Word. That makes us partners in the search for truth, not adversaries.
So a simple example of this type of approach would be a discussion with a Baptist or a methodist friend, concerning baptism. The debate would never end if it were approached with the idea that we would argue what does the Church of Christ teaches versus what do Baptists teach. The discussion becomes more fruitful, less acrimonious if we put it into this perspective. “Let’s study what the Bible teaches about baptism and discuss what we learn.”
There may not be immediate agreement. The other side may not accept certain conclusions that we readily approve of, but communication will happen and God’s Word will be read and discussed, and perhaps the discussion will end well with the desire to continue because there was respect.
If you keep the discussion between people’s beliefs and God’s Word (and not between your idea versus their idea) then you have a better chance of actually teaching God’s Word and will, rather than your own.
Rule #3 – Be Patient
Some folks don’t understand that just because a person understands intellectually (in their head) the teachings of the Bible, it doesn’t mean that they believe and accept (in their heart) the teachings of Christ.
For example, the Apostles were with Jesus for three years, and yet, it took almost ten years after His resurrection for them to understand that the gospel was meant for the entire world and not just for the Jews in the entire world.
There are many obstacles that stand in the way of faith other than ignorance of the doctrines. For example,
- Loyalty to family and church group
- The fear of change
- Love sin and this world (John 3:19-20)
- Comfort within the way things are
When we’re discussing religious issues with someone, we need to remember that all of these issues and more may be affecting the other person’s response and attitude. We need to be willing to keep the discussion and the interchange going as long as the other person is willing to share and exchange ideas. So many people have been turned away from Christ because they were approached by people who were in a hurry to convert them without taking the time to understand them and their issues.
Some are won over quickly, and others have many obstacles that need time to think about and accept the points you may be made concerning the Bible, so be patient.
So when we engage someone in a discussion about religion, about questions concerning the Bible, we need to remember three rules of engagement in order to avoid bad feelings and, of course, wasting our time.
- Give people credit for being as sincere as you are. This demonstrates true Christian love and respect (not for religious practices that may be false) but rather for people’s genuine effort to serve God. Respect will set the tone of the exchange and enable the person to truly listen to what you are saying. If you offend them with your disrespectful attitude, they won’t hear a word you’re saying.
- Study God’s word, not your opinions. The biggest mistake people make in a religious discussion is that they don’t even open their Bible. Find the passage and keep the debate centered on understanding what the Bible says about the issue, not various positions of different groups.
- Be patient. You are sharing in order to teach somebody more perfectly the way and the word of the Lord – this requires patience. If all you want to do is win an argument, you need skill and intelligence, if you want to win a soul, this requires love and patience in addition to skill and intelligence.